Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological preparation for sex, anticipation of pleasure, and the body's immediate physiological reaction. It is useful for all women to know how this process occurs in men and how to speed up arousal.
Where does it all begin?
The onset of arousal is established by a variety of sensory stimuli. The smell of a girl, her kisses and caresses, her appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate the brain centers that transmit a signal to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, American sexologist and fourth part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sexual Research, states that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of excitability of a man. This conclusion was obtained as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of sexual arousal. "
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the corpora cavernosa of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous flow, so the penis becomes hard, enlarges (on average 3-4 times) and pulsation is felt. Often this reaction occurs a few seconds after sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, the erection can weaken and strengthen again; this is absolutely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study carried out among 20 thousand men. The sizes of their genitals were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average size of the penis at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them, the nocturnal (spontaneous), is presented without sexual connotations. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of excitation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord and then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex: appears as a result of touching the penis. Since this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even a light touch can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's pulse accelerates, his breathing accelerates and his blood pressure increases (as happens in the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become denser, and the testicles rise. The upper part of the body turns slightly red. A lubricating liquid is released that facilitates the passage of sperm through the channel.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful image (a woman naked or dressed in lace lingerie, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), foreplay plays an important role. Men also need it so that the excitement is as strong as possible. The safest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate her sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Belly (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay begins, in most cases, with kissing. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put a guy in a good mood. There are many nerve endings on her lips. In addition, she feels her partner's sexuality and anticipates upcoming sexual relations. At this moment you can caress the occipital area with your hands, this area is also very sensitive. Many men like to have their earlobes kissed and bitten, but you have to be careful with this, since there are those who categorically do not like this process.
The lower abdomen is an excellent area for caresses prior to oral sex (from the navel downwards). The back is suitable for erotic massages. By the way, this can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair and bare chest.
With the genitals everything is clear: any movement in this area is welcome and causes sexual excitement in men. You must be careful with sudden movements; children may fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques: all this maximizes the couple's desire. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which can be caressed with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after having sex than women, since the process takes a lot of their energy. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly in all men and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men.
When you see a partner that you find sexually attractive, you become aroused first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a little-known question for most people. What does science say? She considers arousal to be a physiological sexual response.
Or rather, its first phase. That is, a whole series of processes. They have no gender differences: increased respiratory and heart rate, appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, appearance of redness and goosebumps, as well as erection of the nipples.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, change of look and voice. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like a drug. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, a rise of the scrotum to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, additional lubrication occurs, thinning or, on the contrary, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), erection of the clitoris, elevation and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubosacral muscles and increase of the length of the vagina.
By the way, if redness of the skin is observed in men in rare cases, in women a rush of blood occurs not only to the clitoris and lips, but also to the chest and back. In some women, this blushing is so noticeable that during and after orgasm, the area between the chest to the shoulders and neck may even turn scarlet.
Why are there so many reactions? They are associated with a bloodstream, which the body carries out to achieve greater sensitivity of the genital organs and preparation for the second phase of the cycle of sexual reactions - sexual intercourse. After the arousal phase there is: a plateau phase (sexual intercourse), an orgasm phase and a phase of completion of sexual reactions.
The excitation phase may not occur. This is often a physical problem rather than a psychological one. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is associated with the organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes of this are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to the organs and hormonal levels are disturbed.
With some diseases, bad habits, certain medications, especially those that affect the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, blood flow to the pelvic organs is weakened, so the main reaction of sexual arousal in a man does not occur. : the filling of the corpora cavernosa with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical state, but also the psychological state, so impotence goes from an organic form to a mixed one. This situation cannot be delayed, it can be easily corrected at first. It is necessary to consult a urologist or a sex therapist.
Men become sexually aroused much more often than they reach orgasm. Prolonged abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. Women's favorite motto "we'll turn you on and we won't let you" is good in moderation; You should not abuse that entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical health but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is practically no difference in how it is obtained: during sexual intercourse or masturbation.